<p>Most people – men and women – have that ex with whom the sex was out of this world, that person where the physical chemistry was unquestionable but the rest of the relationship just didn’t click for any number of reasons. Are you thinking of that person right now? Do you know which person that is for your wife or girlfriend?</p><p>That ex can actually be the perfect person to build a hotwife/cuckold fantasy out of because he’s the one that provided her with great sex. He’s the one that she can conjure deeply pleasurable sexual thoughts about by simply closing her eyes. That’s something you can work with.</p><p>Getting her to admit that she has someone like that in her past is challenging, of course, but it can be done if you can show her that you’re open to hearing about it. Most women don’t want to admit that sort of thing because they don’t want to hurt the man they love. If you convince you that you won’t be hurt, she might be willing to share with you.</p><p>Once she does, that’s when things really open up. That’s when you can have a little fun. Perhaps you suggest that she closes her eyes and thinks about him. Perhaps your fingers find their way between her legs while she describes a memory of him. Perhaps you suggest that she sink a little further into that memory of him while you do what turns her on the most (whatever that might be for her).</p><p>What you’re doing is making her feel good while indulging in your fantasy. You’ll find that it’s the best way to get her to open up to the idea of what turns you on because you’re making it about what turns her on. As long as you concentrate on her pleasure and don’t get too far afield in pursuing your pleasure, you might pave the way for more talk about your fantasy, which could very quickly become a shared fantasy if it’s built around the guy that used to fuck her brains out (assuming she has one of those, which almost every woman does).</p><p>Perhaps you end up enjoying mutual masturbation sessions while you both talk about this other guy fucking her. Perhaps she gives you a handjob while talking about how good he fucked her. Perhaps you go down on her while she browses his Facebook page. Who knows? There are so many possibilities, and as long as they occur in a judgment free zone the two of you can have all kinds of fun.</p><p>There are so many possibilities. Just remember to keep things sexy, to check the part of your ego that’s bound to get a little hurt when she talks about someone else fucking her really well, and to keep things focused on her pleasure before yours.</p>